Motivation works best when kids gain self-satisfaction. This mother works with her girls to see the satisfaction they can gain if they try. Find out what she does inside.
"Arrgh! Motivation is not a simple topic! Motivation can be words of encouragement, positive affirmations, avoiding the negatives, and boosting the positives.
I teach my girls life is not a competition, if you do something it is for yourself and for your own self-satisfaction. I tell them there is no harm in asking for help. In fact, it’s excellent to ask for help. It encourages team spirit, the learning process, and a keen understanding of our own limitations.
In the young child I use a combination of flattery, rainbow charts, ego boosting, humor, lots of hugs, and little steps towards goals.
In the older child I seek out the worries and help them find the path that gives them self-motivation. If it is simply because they hate something but they have to do it, I try to find the one thing that will turn it around to being a bit more interesting. Math, for instance, is the big, ‘Do I have too?’ in our house. However, it's usually because the questions are dry or the solution limited. So we look to color it up a bit by introducing a practical side or alternative break down method.
Money is not a motivation I use but having friends come for a sleep over is.
I sponsored my elder child in a task in which she was insecure. I took the focus off her fear, and placed it on gaining something for her chosen charity. I did this when she was forced to take part in a school sports day which she really found difficult, due to her dyspraxia. She went off determined to fleece me out of my ‘dress fund,’ and succeeded! LOL! Funny because this is the same child, who would rock climb all day, if given the chance.
But above all, I take the time to show our girls they have the ability to achieve anything if they only give it a go. If it doesn’t work out, they can take heart that they tried because from each trial a new thing is learned." ~ Mrs. Sanders
What I Like about Mrs Sander's Parenting Tips for Motivating Kids:
Her last line..."because from each trial something new is learned" flows through her motivating ideas. I smiled at how she focused her daughter away from fear to achieving something for her favorite charity.
She gave many examples for motivating young children. As her daughters have grown she's moved on to sleep overs and focusing on the good in the challenges her girls face, even math.
Mrs. Sanders sounds like a positive mother who adds fun to her motivating talent.
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