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October 19, 2010Motivation: Moms Understand How Yelling and Criticism Hurt Kids

Motivation by yelling takes an extraordinary child to accept it. Most kids aren't that understanding. Today, our guest, Mary L., shares a childhood memory and her view of criticism.

I've known some people who can handle yelling from people whom they are *sure* love them. A childhood friend had a father who yelled; she said calmly, "Oh, he's not mad at me. It's just the way he is, blowing his stack. He can't help himself." from Mary L.

Mary's childhood friend was wise at an early age. As grown-ups many of us still remember and resent our parents for criticizing and yelling at us.

I remember "yelling" at my 3rd graders years ago when we were practicing for our school play. I told them, "If I yell from the floor of the auditorium, don't be upset. I'm not mad I just want you to speak louder." I hoped they'd understand. As it turned out the school, parents, and grandparents all turned out to cheer them on. They were a smashing success.

Here's An Insight about Criticism from Mary L.

 Most kids seem to give up without trying when they think they will be criticized or ridiculed if they do try. Nobody wants to seem a fool. 

I agree with Mary about not trying due to criticism. Many parents think their criticism is helpful. They don't realize that compliments trump criticism. If their kids don't want to try, it could be they fear failing, feeling foolish, and receiving more criticism.

Parents, What Do You Think of Mary's Motivation Insights? Why?

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