If kids treated you with disrespect, where would the disrespect have come from? Today we'll hear from Parenting Expert, Kathy Slattengren and founder of www.Priceless Parenting.com . First she'll relate a true story. Next she'll share what she taught her own children.
Jean: Kathy how did you become concerned about respect?
Problem Story about Respect
Kathy: When I was pregnant with Kristie, I taught 1st graders at our church school along with three other women. We struggled the entire year to get the kids to cooperate. Many of the kids wouldn't do the simple things we asked them to do like gathering in a circle so we could play a game. I was very frustrated by their lack of respect for me as a volunteer teacher. And I noticed one thing...the kids who were disrespectful to me were also disrespectful to their parents when their parents came to pick them up.
Jean: How did that affect your own parenting?
I promised myself I would never allow my children to treat their teachers the way I was being treated. And I sincerely wanted to make good on that promise but I wasn't sure how I was going to accomplish it.
Jean: Did your children learn to respect you and their teachers?
Kathy: Absolutely!
Jean: How did you accomplish it?
Kathy: When one of them came to me with a problem, I listened to ensure my child felt understood.
Jean: How did you do that?
5 Solutions for Teaching Respect When Kids Have Problems
Kathy. Here are 5 things I did and I teach other parents to do them too:
1. Reduce distractions by turning the TV off.
2. Use body language that says you care, for example, face your child, and look at your child.
3. Let your child describe the problem.
4. Repeat back what you hear.
5. Do not offer any advice.
Jean. What did your careful listening achieve?
Kathy. It increased my understanding of my child. It showed my child respect. It increased my child's trust and respect for me.
Jean: I bet your kids felt safe and confided in you too.
Kathy: Yes, my kids are teenagers now. We have a very caring relationship.
I left Kathy knowing that her parenting expertise is valuable and wishing every parent could learn from her. If you'd like to contact Kathy, go to http://www.PricelessParenting.com
What about you? What do you think?
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With warm wishes,
Jean Tracy, MSS
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