How do you develop respect in kids? If someone gave you 5 powerful strategies, would you use them?
Keef Feeley, a Learning Consultant from Success Feelosophy sent me the following strategies for developing respect in kids. The comments for each strategy are mine.
1. Don’t do too much for your children.
Parents who do for their children, what their children could do for themselves; promote laziness, helplessness, and low self-esteem. Parents need to back off with a good dose of patience because they can do things faster and better than their kids.
We must not give our kids the messages, "Nothing I do is good enough." or "I won't have to do my chores or my homework if I drag my feet."
2. Praise your kid's efforts often.
Kids need to know we respect their efforts. Specific praise using the word 'because' helps them repeat their good behaviors. For example, "I respect how well you concentrated on your homework today because it shows you have a strong mind."
3. Encourage persistence.
When kids try to learn something without giving up, they are persistent. Being persistent helps them respect themselves because persistence leads to success. The good feeling of success encourages persistence in trying other things too.
4. Use discussions to help them reflect on their actions, manage their emotions, understand consequences, and make good decisions.
Use positive discussions on what you noticed they did well. Ask them what they did inside to succeed. This helps them reflect and repeat their good actions.
5. Help them develop an accurate self–assessment of their strengths and weaknesses.
Tell them stories like the "Tortoise and the Hare" to talk about strengths and weaknesses. Point out how everyone is good at something but not everything. Like the tortoise if they keep trying they may not be the best, but they will succeed in the end.
My compliments to Keef Feeley at http://www.successfeelosophy.com for sharing these strategies.
What about you? What do you think?
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Jean Tracy, MSS
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