Would you like to teach your kids about respect using the teachable moment? Imagine being alert at the time things happen instead of months later. Keep reading to find 3 ways for being alert to the teachable moments in your child's life.
Teachable moments are events that happen right before your eyes and the eyes of your child. They are teachable because they are so fresh and can make a positive impact on your child's learning.
This tip on teaching respect with teachable moments comes from Nita Talwar, a certified parenting coach. Nita says,
"I believe in the importance of the teachable moment.' When you observe something or see an act that you believe can 'teach' your children something . positive or negative it is important to be aware and have a chat with your child in the moment." Nita Talwar, PCI Certified Parenting Coach, www.peakexperienceparenting.com
I like Nita's use of the teachable moment. If you can chat with your child in the moment, do so. But if there's too much going on, you may have to discuss the teachable moment later. Here are 3 simple ways to discuss it later:
1. Keep a notebook handy to write down what you and your child observed.
a. Discuss the incident at the dinner table.
b. Make the discussion for the teachable moment at a family meeting.
c. Chat about the problem while taking your child to an appointment.
2. Start the discussion by asking your child what what he thought about the incident.
a. Listen without interrupting.
b. Appreciate your child's best thoughts and let him know why you liked them.
c. Avoid criticizing your child's thoughts. Rather ask more questions to clarify what he meant.
3. When watching TV together and you see something you need to discuss, use commercial time.
a. Perhaps there was a violent scene, mute the TV and use number 2's question and method.
b. Maybe a commercial is selling toys to your kids. Discuss the tricks in the commercial to get kids to beg parents to buy it.
c. Using a toy commercial again, you might ask if that toy would really make a kid happy and why.
Chat about the teachable moment in the moment whenever you can. Otherwise, remember it and discuss it later.
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